By Rev. Juliet Schimpf
Rev. Juliet Schimpf is the Minister of
First Baptist Church in Perth, Ontario:
The book of Proverbs is the best manual you’ll find on people skills because it was given to us by the God who made us.
C.S. LEWIS “The next best thing to being wise oneself is to live in a circle of those who are.”
- SEE SOMEONE WHO LOVES YOU AS THEY LOVE THEMSELVES
Proverbs 20:6 “Many describe themselves as people of faithful love, but who can find someone really to be trusted?”
is one who gives false testimony against a neighbor.
19 Like a broken tooth or a lame foot
is reliance on the unfaithful in a time of trouble.
20 Like one who takes away a garment on a cold day,
or like vinegar poured on a wound,
is one who sings songs to a heavy heart.”
AMOS 3:3 "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?"
2 Corinthians 6:14 “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 15 What harmony is there between Christ and Belial[b]? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? 16 What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said:
and walk among them,
and I will be their God,
and they will be my people.”
and be separate,
says the Lord.
Touch no unclean thing,
and I will receive you.”
for a companion of fools suffers harm.”
THE IMPORTANCE OF FRIENDS”
One of the most thorough research projects on relationships is called the Alameda County Study. Headed by a Harvard social scientist, it tracked the lives of 7,000 people over nine years. Researchers found that the most isolated people were three times more likely to die than those with strong relational connections.
People who had bad health habits (such as smoking, poor eating habits, obesity, or alcohol use) but strong social ties lived significantly longer than people who had great health habits but were isolated. In other words, it is better to eat Twinkies with good friends than to eat broccoli alone. Harvard researcher Robert Putnam notes that if you belong to no groups but decide to join one, “you cut your risk of dying over the next year in half.”
For another study, as reported in the Journal of the American Medical Association, 276 volunteers were infected with a virus that produces the common cold. The study found that people with strong emotional connections did four times better fighting off illness than those who were more isolated. These people were less susceptible to colds, had less virus, and produced significantly less mucous than relationally isolated subjects. (I’m not making this up. They produced less mucous. This means it is literally true: Unfriendly people are snottier than friendly people.) [Taken from Ortberg, John (2008-04-01). Everybody’s Normal Till You Get to Know Them (p. 33). Zondervan. Kindle Edition.]
and the pleasantness of a friend springs from their heartfelt advice.10 Do not forsake your friend or a friend of your family, and do not go to your relative’s house when disaster strikes you—better a neighbor nearby than a relative far away.”
But of all the friendships we could possible develop, none can excel the one we can
have with Him who truly "sticks closer than a brother" – our Lord Jesus Christ!
Have you become His friend? Consider what He has done for us...
"Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one's life
for his friends." (Jn 15:13)
Consider what He asks of us...
"You are My friends if you do whatever I command you."